Our Willingness to Wait
Reveals the Value We Place
On The Object We’re Waiting a For
They are not exactly the restore your faith in humanity kind of pictures per a couple of requests, but they did put a smile on my face as I thought of them when I was running a tough part of the trail this morning. I looked up, and a lone hiker was walking down, she saw me smile and her frown changed. So now I remind myself everyday to make sure I have a smile on my face.
When people say, “the sex might be good but it is not worth a shitty personality” the same goes for the opposite. If the sex isn’t good then the personality will eventually not be enough.
… I feel bad for the people who save them selves for marriage and then the sex sucks.
I don’t think this is actually true. Part of the reason I decided to wait is so that personality and love of each others souls would be the more important factors in our relationship than physical pleasure. Also I’ve heard many people say the sex turned out to be poor (for one reason or another), but that they would never regret marrying their partner because they love them.
1. Don’t use ultimatums instead of compromising unless it’s a VERY serious personal issue.
2. Apologize for your mistakes.
3. Make a genuine effort to bond with their friends and family.
4. Never “keep score.”
5. Listen to your partners struggles: don’t talk only about your own.
6. Be honest about your past relationships, but try not to compare them with your partner.
7. Put time aside to spend together if business interferes.
8. Don’t lie to spare their feelings. Just use gentle language in all your conversations.
9. If either of you have just exited a relationship, wait a while before entering one with each other.
10. Develop your own interests and hobbies as well as mutual ones.
11. Treat strangers with as much respect as your partner.
12. Never be ashamed to try therapy.
13. Never be sexually intimate (for the first time) without adequate amount of discussion first. Continue talking about sex or sexuality throughout your relationship.
14. Make sure your spiritual views and life goals are sufficiently compatible before entering a relationship, and continue to discuss them as you grow as people and a couple.
15. Don’t let financial issues ruin your relationship. Rely on each others emotional support and have hope.
16. Pray, worship, or meditate together as well as apart.
17. Remember to have fun and remember why you love each other. :)
I’m a Christian, and even I can recognize how ridiculous it is for people to oppose gay marriage based on the grounds that “The Bible defines marriage as one man and one woman.” That’s simply not true.
If these are barbaric and no longer acceptable practices, then I think we can say that prejudice against queer people is also barbaric and no longer acceptable.
Civil unions legalized in Colorado
AP: Colorado Gov. John Hickenlooper signed a bill legalizing civil unions for gay couples today. The law takes effect May 1.
“There is no excuse that people shouldn’t have all the same rights,” Hickenlooper told the crowd during a ceremony at the History Colorado Center near the state Capitol. …
Colorado will join eight states that have civil unions or similar laws. Nine states and the District of Columbia allow gay marriage.
Photo: Colorado Gov. John Hickenlooper gives a thumbs up as he celebrates with members of the legislature after he signs the Civil Unions Act into law at the Colorado History Museum in Denver, Colo., on March 21, 2013. (Brennan Linsley / AP)
Restored Faith in Humanity of the Day: North Carolina Church Boycotts Marrying People Until Gays Can Marry
The Green Street United Methodist Church in North Carolina is refusing to perform any marriages until same-sex marriage is legally recognized by the state. The announcement comes in conflict with the official laws and doctrines of the United Methodist Church, which lists homosexuality as a practice that is “incompatible with Christian teaching.” In the meantime, the church will be holding “relationship blessings” as an alternative to marriage ceremonies.
I think people expect too much from marriage today. They expect perfection. Every moment should be bliss. That’s TV or movies. But that is not the human experience. Twenty good minutes here, forty good minutes there, it adds up to something beautiful. The trick is when things aren’t so great, you don’t junk the whole thing. It’s okay to have an argument. It’s okay that the other one nudges you a little, bothers you a little. It’s part of being close to someone. But the joy you get from that same closeness―when you watch your children, when you wake up and smile at each other―that is a blessing. People forget that.
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