Telling your son not to “be such a girl” lets his sister who overhears the conversation know that being a girl is not a good thing and she should be sorry and ashamed of herself.
It also reminds your son that being a boy is better than being a girl and therefore he is better than any girl he will ever meet.
This guy stopped watching porn — and he wants you to know why. Gender activist Ran Gavrieli felt that most of the images he saw in porn encouraged negative, even violent, attitudes toward women, despite a recent wave of feminist porn. So he pulled the plug, and found that his personal sex life and private fantasies became much more fulfilling.
omg! love this!
GOD BLESS THIS MAN OH MY GOSH
In general, young women are in special danger from those who profess to love them. From Australia to Zimbabwe, the younger the woman, the higher the likelihood that she will be killed as a result of a sexual infidelity or leaving a romantic relationship. Women in the fifteen-to-twenty-four-year-old bracket are at the greatest risk. For women aged twenty-five to thirty-four, the risk drops by 25 percent. And the risk continues to decline with age.
Buss, David. "The Murderer Next Door: Why The Mind Is Designed To Kill." Penguin Press; New York, 2005. (p. 95)
Lululemon used to seem so cool to me. But this is just atrocious. Speaking as someone who wears nothing else, the comfort and convenience of yoga pants should be a luxury everyone can enjoy.
Andrea Dworkin on the argument that porn is just a fantasy
Also why we have to be cautious about BDSM (in my opinion).
5371ei asked: Hey it's me, sorry if this to is rude and stupid too but I see a lot of people get angry when a woman (white or other wise) is depicted wearing a Native American headdress because they are traditionally for males. As a feminist how do you feel about this? Should women be allowed to earn them or is it part of tradition and fine the way it is?
I get this question quite a bit so I’mma publicly answer it, if you don’t mind.
The warbonnet issue is not a feminist issue.
People don’t (or shouldn’t) get mad because it’s a “men’s thing” because that isn’t true. Contemporary women have worn the warbonnet and have earned the right to do so (like Chief Theresa Spence, for example).
Even traditionally, some Nations had women wear warbonnets. My Nation, for example, even traditionally had a society called the Warbonnet Society that was comprised solely of women who had earned the right to wear the warbonnet.
The issue, is when people (White or otherwise although, to be real, it’s mostly White people that do this) wear knockoffs of something that is important and sacred to some of us (and I say some of us because not all Nations traditionally wore warbonnets). They’re making a mockery of our cultures by commodifying and stealing something that is incredibly important and has a lot of social connotations to it.
I see as furthering cultural genocide and cultural colonization. Just because you think you should be able to wear what you perceive as a symbol of male dominance (which it certainly is not and shows a lack of understanding and ignorance at best) doesn’t mean you should.
This is NOT a feminist issue. Native American cultures are traditionally far more equalized in terms of male/female/non binary gender roles than Westernized society. Non Native anthropologists, especially in the past, have put a Judeo-Christian Patriarchal spin on a lot of our cultures because it made THEM comfortable when really, it’s a fundamental misinterpretation/outright lying about practices, spiritualites, societal constructs and whatnot
Basically, anyone who comes at me telling me that the wearing of warbonnets is a feminist issue, I automatically assume has no idea what they’re talking about and are forcing their Westernized mindset on cultures they don’t understand
Some points to be made in response to a debate I saw about porn.
1. In response to people saying there is nothing objectively sexist about the abundance of rape and violence in scenes involving women as victims.
My response: If there was porn out there (which, okay, there probably is) that showed African people being lynched by white individuals for sexual pleasure, there would be outrage. There is simply no defense for that. But when the majority of films display domestic violence of some sort (regardless of whether it’s a woman abusing a man, a man abusing a man, man abusing a woman, etc), we say it’s fine because it’s just fantasy, it’s “private,” it’s “fulfillment.” Meanwhile, millions of people (predominantly women) are suffering from domestic violence that is a vulnerable issue wrought with sexual and racial prejudice and belittling (just like porn).
2. Even in do-it-yourself porn (which is very often cited as a “success” area of the industry free of pressures - including in the documentary), the people producing it and putting it out there on the internet can not consent to every possible person who may see and/or enjoy their naked body and sexual actions. Even if they try (for example, sending it to only one person), it is so easy for digital files to travel to people who they didn’t want to see it. For example: parents and/or relatives, murderers and rapists, minors and children, employers, etc.
3. Arguments were made about the fact that many undesirable things are rampant in Hollywood and advertizing, like violence, objectification of women, etc.
My response: this is an argument I see all the time. Very similar to “we should legalize pot because alcohol is legal and it’s way more harmful.” To which I say, you’re going in the opposite direction. We shouldn’t legalize something dangerous because other dangerous things are legal, we should try to get rid of the dangerous things that are legal and/or widespread.
Second: in a film that depicts violence or sex, no one is actually being shot or penetrated. In a typical porno, the women (or man) is being slapped, chocked, anally penetrated multiple times, screamed at, urinated on, etc.
4. “It’s their choice to watch the porn, we can’t blame it on the industries just because people watch it or children see it.”
To which I say: that is true to a very small extent. The current availability and intensity of porn has changed the situation immensely. Ask yourself, for example, what would happen if everyone in the world (including children and other vulnerable populations, possible dealing with life trauma) was given unlimited access to cake. Day in and day out, there were all these different increasingly delicious cakes just sitting on their table. An unlimited amount. Does self-control mean something in this situation? Yes. Is it different from controlling yourself from walking 20 minutes to the store for a cake? Yes.
Also it’s very typical for something that SEEMS really tempting and good to cause long term harm, as applies to porn and cake; so the level of consent and responsibility is in question as well.
5. Lastly, children are watching it. The average age someone first sees porn is 11. 90% of people under 18 have seen porn. One third of the entire internet is used for downloading porn, and more people use the internet for porn than participate in twitter, amazon, and netflix combined. About 25-30 percent of porn users are under 18. There is absolutely no guarantee that they are watching “soft core” porn, because the majority of porn that exists contains some sort of violence, non-traditional sex (gang bang scenes, spitting or urinating, chocking, etc) or encourages things like pedophilia or rape.
6. In response to people who say porn is essential or useful for relationships: 76% of people who watch porn watch it only alone. Many people report increasing difficulty in being satisfied with their partners because of porn, to the point where they have to close their eyes and picture a rape or incest scene in order to orgasm. Also, if you need porn to find each other sexually attractive or want to have sex, you most likely have deeper problems.
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