You lose her when you forget to remember the little things that mean the world to her: the sincerity in a stranger’s voice during a trip to the grocery store, the delight of finding something lost or forgotten like a sticker from when she was five, the selflessness of a child giving a part of his meal to another, the scent of new books in the store, the surprise short but honest notes she tucks in her journal and others you could only see if you look closely.
You must remember when she forgets.
You lose her when you don’t notice that she notices everything about you: your use of the proper punctuation that tells her continuation rather than finality, your silence when you’re about to ask a question but you think anything you’re about to say to her would be silly, your mindless humming when it is too quiet, your handwriting when you sign your name in blank sheets of paper, your muted laughter when you are trying to be polite, and more and more of what you are, which you don’t even know about yourself, because she pays attention.
She remembers when you forget.
You lose her for every second you make her feel less and less of the beauty that she is. When you make her feel that she is replaceable. She wants to feel cherished. When you make her feel that you are fleeting. She wants you to stay. When you make her feel inadequate. She wants to know that she is enough and she does not need to change for you, nor for anyone else because she is she and she is beautiful, kind and good.
You must learn her.
You must know the reason why she is silent. You must trace her weakest spots. You must write to her. You must remind her that you are there. You must know how long it takes for her to give up. You must be there to hold her when she is about to.
You must love her because many have tried and failed. And she wants to know that she is worthy to be loved, that she is worthy to be kept.
And, this is how you keep her.
Junot Diaz, This is How You Lose Her (via surbeat)
one difference between cats and dogs is that dogs do absolutely nothing to mask their clinginess while cats pretend it’s a coincidence they’re in the same room as you 97% of the time
"The fact I am laying on your face means nothing"
Our cats are absolutely and unashamedly demonstrative in their affection. Our lady follows us into every room and literally jumps like a ping pong ball from different pieces of furniture to get close enough for pets. Our monsieur rolls over on his back like a dog when you pet him and meows his butt off if we leave the room he’s in. :) I love it!
“My teachings are easy to understand
and easy to put into practice.
Yet your intellect will never grasp them,
and if you try to practice them, you’ll fail.
My teachings are older than the world.
How can you grasp their meaning?
If you want to know me, look inside your heart.”—
Lao Tzu - (Tao Te Ching, chapter 70, translation by Stephen Mitchell)
(I remember years ago, when I was first introduced to the Tao Te Ching. I was reading every translation I could get my hands on, and trying and trying to understand exactly what Lao Tzu was trying to convey. I knew there was something here of value. But for a long while, I struggled with it. I didn’t understand what my problem was.
His teachings seemed easy to understand; yet, I never seemed to manage to grasp them. His teachings seemed easy to put into practice: and I was trying to put them into practice. But the more I tried, the more colossal my failure seemed to be. What was my problem? Was I just too stupid?
In this short and sassy chapter, Lao Tzu pinpoints exactly what my problem was. For it wasn’t that I was too stupid. I may be stupid, but his teachings are not something grasped with the intellect. His teachings are older than the world. You can’t grasp their meaning at all.
Grasping and trying. This was never the way to center myself in the Tao. But there did come a time. I can’t really pinpoint it with any accuracy. It just happened. Without any conscious effort on my part. I just know I started looking inside my own heart for the answers.
And there, in my heart, is where it had always been. I knew. And I am no longer grasping or trying. I am not ‘doing’ anything. I discovered the ease of effortless action. I realized I am a human being, not a human doing. And everything changed.)
As a woman why do you feel the need to further take away the rights of your fellow women? Further oppression seems regressive, taking away choice doesn't do any good. The fetuses being aborted are often aborted for incredibly valid reasons. If a woman does not want to raise a child, why should she be forced to bring it into the world? We already have an excessive amount of children who are not properly cared for who survive what you have deemed to be a form of "holocaust" who need more care
You know I am getting so damn tired of these presumptuous asks.
"As a women" let me tell about my day. I’ve been sick going back and forth from the bathroom and my bed. I feel beyond bad.
How did I get sick?
When I was in Mexico helping out a group of migrant workers (don’t get me started on their suffering) I was trying to work with a mother with getting clothes for her baby. Her baby is sneezing and coughing all over me and now I have what the baby has.
And the worse thing is I know they have it worse than me. That mother and child have it worse than me. I’m beyond privileged and knowing that I can get meds tonight and that baby can’t haunts me. I gave them clothes food and a promise that I would be back.
And even though I know this/posting this I am humbled by their life affirming nature. They don’t view children as a burden. They are wanted and loved and they are doing what they can to carve out their life.
They are worked beyond their limits and live below the poverty line they are still some of the most humbled and life affirming people as with the children at the orphanages and women’s shelter I do service for. They don’t need the newest phones, brand name everything, cable tv, or other worthless crap to be happy.
There are places and countries that need help and there is suffering but honestly stop victimizing them with your assumptions and ignorance elsewhere.
You literally know nothing about me and as a women all these message shaming me are pathetic to your cause.
I just want to point out for anyone who thinks that pro-life is simply a religious position;
It was science and statistics that converted me.
The fact that 9 in 10 babies with down syndrome are aborted (which automatically places the abortion later than average),
The fact that countless other “different” groups of people (one of whom may not qualify for the traditional definition of ‘sentience’) such as women, slaves, Africans, and the disabled have at some point in history been not considered “persons” by the law or society. People also argued for the poor treatment or murder of these groups of people based on the idea that they were not “true” people.
The fact that a 23 week old baby can survive if delivered out of a pregnant person, yet another baby of the same age can be killed via abortion instead of delivering them; especially if they have a disability because that tends to cause people to throw traditional time limits out the window.
The fact that almost 500 babies have knowingly died in Canada after failed abortions because they were “supposed to have been aborted” and thus the staff took no effort to save their lives.
The fact that sex-selective abortions happen and are somehow not considered gendercide.
The fact that 3/4 black babies in New York City are aborted.
The fact that newborns are incredibly in demand and birthmothers get full choice of the adoptive parents, as well as all costs (medical, legal, etc) covered by the agency or the parents, and a 30 day window after giving birth to change their minds. The myth that we would be adding more kids to the foster care system by banning abortion is just that: a myth. Foster care is for kids who are taken away from unfit parents (or whose parents have died). It is not where newborn babies go unless they are abandoned.
The fact that, at just 12 weeks, a baby has everything he/she needs biologically, and mostly just gets bigger from that point on.
The fact that 80% of the Canadian population are in favor of legal restrictions on abortion, yet we still have none.
Yes I believe life is sacred and yes I believe in some form of God. But these views came after I began identifying as pro-life. Science and hard facts made me change my mind. And I’m glad it did.
“When you see the world you see God. There is no seeing God apart from the world. Beyond the world to see God is to be God. The light by which you see the world, which is God is the tiny little spark: ‘I am’, apparently so small and yet the first and the last in every act of knowing and loving.”—Nisargadatta Maharaj (1897–1981) (via ashramof1)
The things you said about identityfox's cosplay are pretty shitty and out of place, if a woman wants to wear shorts and a mid-rift shirt that is her business and the only real problem here is people like you that are trying to sexualize non-sexual parts of female bodies like (heaven forbid) LEGS and MID-RIFTS. Even if she was trying to be sexy that is still not a problem, women embracing their bodies and sexuality isn't the problem. It's people like you calling yourselves feminists.
I have a feeling this might be the same anon as last time, because you have the same angry tone.
I am perfectly willing to acknowledge that my opinions on how much of people’s bodies they should show do not matter that much - they are adults and they have that right. That is a separate issue.
The girl in that picture was acting and dressed in a way that indicates sexuality. It may be that in the future this changes, but in our day and age that type of clothing and posture is heavily associated with sex.
I think you missed the main point of my post. The costume in question was a children’s cartoon character. Children have a right to see those characters (and emulate them if they wish) in their original wholesome context. When you send them messages that this is the more “attractive” or acceptable version of that character, that can become the image they choose to emulate or are drawn to. There are also (unfortunately) adults who are attracted to children, and images like this (as proven by studies) are attractive to them, and cause them to continue seeking out these images of infantalized women. Whether this girl is intending this or not, by posting the picture on a website where people of any age can view it, she is contributing to the sexualization of children. This in any context is wrong. Toddlers and Tiaras is another good example. So are clothing stores that sell thong bikinis for babies, and yes those do exist.
It hurts when people go around accusing others of not being feminist. You do not know the extent of my beliefs on any issue, and one short post isn’t going to tell you what I think of women and equality. Let me just stress, I would’ve found this image JUST as problematic if it was a male bodied person, a trans person, a gender-neutral person, or any other combination /identity out there. The problem is over-sexualization, particularly of children’s materials, which CERTAINLY hurts women.
If you’re going to say something in this accusatory fashion I really wish you wouldn’t do it anonymously so we can have a real conversation. I feel that you are expressing your anger behind the veil of anonymity and whether or not you intended it, your wording was hurtful. I hope you have a lovely day nonetheless, and that we can talk about this issue more politely in the future.